Tuesday, January 03, 2012

The Neighbor Rule, and What Is Going on with Maxwell

My rule has been that you should share news with distant folks, especially bad or uncomfortable news that your actual neighbors would know.

So here's the news; Max is not returning to BYU. As of this morning, he's staying with us, though that could change. If it does, I'll let you know.

He has been struggling with some doubts about the church and his own future. He has been worried about disappointing us, about being judged, and about being honest. Last Saturday, I spent New Year's Eve in the hospital with him while he experienced a mild (non-violent) mental breakdown. He was released from the Hospital yesterday, and we are looking for a therapist we can meet with this week.

I don't want to gossip about Max, or embarrass him. But I want people to know what to pray for when they become aware of his status.

So if this seems a little vague, much of that is a deliberate attempt to respect Max's privacy as he determines what to do next. We love him, and are glad he is talking to us, even if we aren't always sure what to say back to him. I am confident he can be happy and honest and functional and be a joy to himself and others.

We will let everyone know when there is something else to know.

3 comments:

Deb said...

Thank you for being open. We love Max and thoroughly enjoyed his stay here with us. He is welcome here any time. Our love and prayers continue.

Jane Babcock said...

Thank you for sharing news with us especially when it's hard. We want to keep connected and specific in our prayers.

Maxwell Defiance Landbeck said...

Thank you Dad. I really appreciate the kindness and love you have shown for me.

I just now hope that I can find that kindness and love for myself.